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It’s time to talk about your passion!<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

With the first #PassionWeek<\/strong> – “I bring girls to power” you get an article full of support! You will learn from Friederike how she uses her voice after a drastic event in her life and how she now stands up for her own and the justice of others. Nobody should feel alone – an app and a contact point can support you. You will get a book recommendation from an inspiring woman, as well as an update about the current intombi actions. And last but not least, we learn from a young woman why she burns for the success of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Click here for the contributions to #PassionWeek<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I bring girls to the power<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We start with Friederike’s story and how she found her passion:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n

Passion-Story:<\/em> <\/strong>I am not a victim of my past and therefore fight for justice and against abuse today.<\/h3>

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Friederike, 20 years, from M\u00fcnster<\/p><\/span>\n\n\n

As a teenager, I often degraded myself or thought more about what I can’t do instead what I can do! When I think about justice, financial inequalities or different role models come to my mind. But what plays a much bigger role in my personal life is something like an emotional justice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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For <\/strong><\/a>me it’s about a sense of justice… –><\/strong><\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Nobody can look inside you, so it’s incredibly important that you show how much is inside you. And if there is something you can’t do yet, so what? There are always possibilities to learn things. If I’d gotten one euro every time I’d done less than I wanted because I thought “I can’t do that”, I’d probably be a millionaire by now.\n\n\nMost of the victims are women<\/strong>\nAccording to an FRA study, every third woman has experienced physical and\/or sexual violence since she was 15 years old. Of course, this does not correspond to the number of offences effectively reported. Men are also harmed by such things, and I don’t want to play that down at all. However, most of the victims are women. Thus, I don’t feel equally treated. (Source: European Union Agency for Fundamental Rights<\/a>)\n\nThe #metoo movement a few years ago, in which many famous actresses revealed their experiences with abuse, shows that such terrible things really happen everywhere. Bad or even traumatic experiences with physical or sexual violence are often a taboo subject. I myself didn’t tell a soul what had happened when I made such experiences, and afterwards convinced myself that it was me looking for it as well.\n\n\nThe guilt is often sought in oneself<\/strong>\nWhen I now tell people about my experiences, I am often asked why I don’t simply report that person. But it’s not that simple. Because although it should not be so, this topic is often still shamefaced or you feel responsible. I have heard so many times from other women who have had similar experiences that they question their own behaviour. They consider whether a different appearance might have saved them from the painful experience.\n\nI have heard of thousands of ways women protect themselves on their way home in the evenings. Some pretend to talk on the phone. Others hold the key between their fingers in their fist, some avoid these late return journeys altogether. Taking care of yourself and your friends is important, of course. But the fact that these precautions feel appropriate makes me totally sad.\n\n\nWhat to do if something happens?<\/strong>\nWhat I also found quite helpful was my appointment at a counselling centre. The good thing about this is that the counsellors keep everything for themselves and would never make a move without your approval. As they are specialists in the subject they can really help you out and understand what you are talking about. Further, you do not have to go there alone. Siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends or whoever you have entrusted yourself to can accompany you as moral support.\n\nWhat is also important, of course, is the external situation. How do you react when someone entrusts you with something like this? What is most important for me: You should believe the person. Because if you appear to be sceptical, the person may never open again. Encourage your counterpart to talk about it and do not ask explicit questions. The person will tell as much as he or she is willing to say. Offer help, but do not go it alone unless the person is in acute danger. Agreeing to go to a counselling centre is also helpful.\n\n\nMy message to you!<\/strong>\nSo finally, to all the girls out there: if anything happens to you, talk about it. Life is far too short to get it screwed up by people who did something bad to you. You do not have to carry this ballast with you throughout your entire lifetime and let it have a negative impact on every new interpersonal relationship before it even started. Get rid of the intention to cover it up, be loud, be yourselves, and stand up for yourself and your feelings. Everyone deserves that. Get support, you are not alone!<\/p>\n\n\nYours Friederike (20 years old, from M\u00fcnster) <\/strong><\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n