Why me? This is how you can cope with a difficult diagnosis

Martina is wearing a darkred shirt with lace. Her dark hairs is falling  over her shoulders. She is standing in front of a grey wall and smiles into the camera.
„Measure your lifetime; it’s not enough for so many things.“ (Lucius Annaeus Seneca)

Martina (30 from Nuremberg) was diagnosed with acute lymphatic leukemia when she was five years old, and with skin cancer when she was 16 and 21. The 30-year-old is now in perfect health and would like to help people today to find a way to heal physically after a shock diagnosis.

“Many people think it goes on after cancer diagnose as it was before,” but she knows this is nearly impossible. To find healing after her serious illness diagnoses, she asked herself what the meaning of her life was:

         1.  what would I do if money was no object?
         2.  what fulfils you deeply?
         3.  how could I make the world a little better?

How did your environment react to your illness and did your interpersonal relationships changed?

“It was a shock diagnosis. It changed not only my life, but also the lives of my entire social environment. I spent the first two years as an inpatient, which also meant organizing a lot, keeping visiting hours. My interpersonal relationships have changed a lot, it makes you learn to appreciate every second with loved ones more. Other people’s lives keep spinning, you unfortunately also lose a lot of social contacts,” Martina tells us.

What has changed with your diagnosis and what challenges have you faced as a result?

“In the early days, you’re busy somehow getting through chemotherapy. Our psyche goes through a lot during that time, whether consciously or unconsciously. That makes it all the more important to deal with it. Also the optical appearance changes a lot, for example the loss of hair or strong water retention. All this has a significant influence on our psyche. I am firmly convinced that we can only accept the disease by giving our lives a meaning for ourselves and for others,” she tells us.

You don’t have to do this alone, we are stronger as a team.


What advice would you give to young women who have recently received a diagnosis from their doctor that turns their life upside down?

“First and foremost, get help. There are many voluntary associations and, thanks to social media, an incredibly strong community on the subject of cancer.

It is also important to pay attention to your psyche and already ask yourself about the meaning of your life during the disease. I wish all women who receive the shock diagnosis a lot of strength. You can do it!“, Martina advices.

From one day to the next, Martina’s entire life has changed

Shock diagnosis pulls the rug out from beneath your feet. “The important thing is that you define the meaning of your life during this difficult time. A meaning that serves and helps others. A meaning that is elementarily important for you and with which you can identify.” Do you have any questions about this topic? Feel free to ask them in the in the comments.

If you are wondering how you can help, we highly recommend our article “A future thanks to lifesavers“. There you can learn how you can save lives as a donor to the DKMS, for example.

Martina is wearing a red dress with a withe flower pattern. She is smiling into the camera.

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